I have several friends who have suffered a devastating loss in the last year. And now the Christmas season is here, and I find myself a little uncomfortable for them because of all the “Happy Holiday’s” and “Merry Christmas’s” that are flying around. I cannot imagine that either one of those is probable when a person is in the throngs of mourning. The Fat Man is writing this to tell you that it is not only ok to not be merry or happy this holiday, but it is normal for your pain to be just a little more exquisite. A person missing from their place at the dinner table is sad, someone’s presents not under the tree is sad, that voice missing from the family fight is sad, the stories that were once told by the person that won’t be re-told is sad. Sadness is just part of existence for the mourner. As a Christian, when I celebrate this holiday, I celebrate the birth of God’s Son who came to see to it that the sorrow of this life doesn’t have to last forever. Our sin assured our death……..both physical and spiritual, and THAT stings. That baby born on Christmas morning took away the sting. Now the mourners have hope, hope that we will get to see our beloved again some day. Hope that all our tears will be wiped away, hope for an eternity without sorrow, as long as we trust in, rely upon, and cling to Him. So it is ok to be sad this Christmas………..and it’s ok to be happy in the midst of sadness this Christmas. You have a good reason for both.
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